If your current marriage seems a bit unsettled and you’re afraid that your spouse is considering asking for a divorce, then this it very important that you read the rest of this port.
I’ll go over some hints to look out for that may indicate your spouse is thinking about divorce. I’ll also tell you how to prevent it and how to begin repairing your marriage.
So, let’s get started with the first hint to look for…
Hint #1 – Arguing About Anything & Everything
Yes, it’s no secret that the more and more arguments that happen with your partner are a clear sign that things aren’t going that well with your marriage. The key here though, is don’t panic just because you and your spouse are arguing a few times a week.
Every married couple will disagree and have conflicts from time to time and believe it or not it can be healthy to argue but only as long as they lead to resolutions or don’t leave lingering hard feelings and grudges.
When those arguments become daily occurrences, and tend to happen over anything and everything, then that’s when things get a little more dire. For example, if you’re a bit late for a dinner date and it turns into a huge screaming match which results in you both going to bed mad at each other for the X time in a week, then that’s an issue.
It’s these kind of arguments that if happen over and over again ten to cause small disagreements to be blown way out of proportion which in turn can indicate that you marriage is heading down the wrong path.
If a couple argues quite a bit but otherwise has a pretty healthy marriage they can usually repair their issues relatively easily. But if your a couple fights too much or are always arguing over the smallest issues then it’s important to learn how to prevent the arguments that are completely petty and useless and have more important disagreements in a more constructive and civilized manor.
Now if you both stop trying to resolve conflicts, then this could be a more serious sign of an unhealthy marriage… which leads right into hint #2.
Hint #2 – Willingness To Resolve Conflicts or Find Any Solutions Disappears
When the outcome of a fight or argument seems to no longer matter to your spouse or if they feel it’s pointless/hopeless, then that can a pretty clear sign of serious troubles.
When these kinds of feelings arise, your partner may withdraw even more and feel as though there is no way you both could live together any longer in peace. It’s definitely not a good thing and it’s something that needs to be worked in if it’s an issue in your marriage.
Hint #3 – Lack and Withdrawal of Emotional Connection and Affection.
Another strong indication that your spouse may have mentally checked out of the marriage is if they have become distant and has stopped showing any affection towards you. This can be connected with an overall lack of emotional connection and willingness to talk about or show feelings and emotions.
In most cases this is one of the most obvious hints that a marriage is certainly heading in the wrong direction. But a lot of the time it is more of a symptom than the root of a problem and it’s more important to take care of the core problem of your marriage to help rebuild the emotional connection and lead your spouse to show affection towards you again.
If you are seeing this or any other symptoms on this list than you need to start taking action right away to stop the degradation of your marriage!
Hint #4 – Never or Hardly Ever Having Sex
I’ll tell you right now, if there is constant fighting and no emotional connection, the sex will disappear! It can also be a symptom of other problems in your marriage.
Now it can also be a problem on its own own and can lead to a marriage crisis, whether it’s caused by lack of attraction or low sex drive.
Regardless, a sexless marriage can be a marriage that is on the fast track to a divorce… so if sex is no longer important to your spouse or they are always making excuses, than that is a pretty clear sign that there are problems.
Hint #5 – Spouse is Absent More Often or Preoccupied All The Time
Yet another serious indication that your spouse may be unhappy with the situation at home is if they are staying out more often and showing less interest in the family and spending time together.
It could also mean that they are preparing mentally for a life apart, building their social life or even dating other people. Hopefully this isn’t the case and it’s important to note that you shouldn’t accuse your spouse of this just because they are not at home as often… but keep it in the back of your mind as a possibility.
In the end… if you are spending less and less time with your spouse than you have before or if they seem more distant and preoccupied than she has before when you are together, that can be a pretty clear hint that they are mentally struggling with the choice to end the marriage.
Next Steps: Where to go from here…
Let me clear something up here first… just because your spouse may be showing some of these hints does not necessarily mean that they want or is planning to file a divorce. It could simply be that these are indicators of current or future troubles in your marriage.
But if you have noticed several of these hints and indicators in your spouse recently and you have a feeling that things just aren’t normal in your marriage then I encourage that you act to turn things around now before it gets any worse!
The best place to begin is by watching this free video by marriage guru Brad Browning… he explains where you’ve been going wrong and what you need to do to make your spouse fall back in love with you.
All the best and good luck!